By Our new friend – Sam Marquit!
In prehistoric times, it was crucial for humans to be afraid of new things. This fear taught us to flee from a dinosaur even if we’d never seen a dinosaur before. It was a primal instinct then; it is a primal instinct now.
As the landlord of several New York City apartments, I see many people who are frightened of change. The familiar is always more comfortable than the unknown. A new experience may seem frightening at the onset but the rewards can be astronomical!
Anxiety is often attributed to change. This is a physical, tangible feeling. Anxiety is simply a tributary of fear. Everyone feels anxious at one time or another. However, when this anxiety continues indefinitely or significantly interferes with the quality life it may be time to seek help.
When I was younger I transitioned from my family home into my own apartment. This apartment was something that I thought I wanted, at least on the surface. However, as my move-in date approached I began to feel more and more uneasy. I considered things I hadn’t previously thought about, like how far this new apartment was from my family, friends and comfort zone. I had a panic attack.
I learned quickly how to deal with my fear of change and you should do the same. Long-term anxiety can lead to serious health consequences. It can also affect your daily routine and cause a host of psychological issues. Face your fears head on and conquer them!
Coping with Anxiety
There is no cure for the fear of change; it will rear its ugly head from time to time for the rest of your life. However, there are ways to deal with this fear before it causes negative effects. I found great comfort in my family and friends. They were a rock, a constant presence in my ever-changing world. Whether it was a game of pick-up basketball in the driveway with my brothers or a lunch with my mom, the sense of normalcy helped me to deal with the changes in my life.
I also found solace in exercise. Working out promotes healthy endorphins, which can, in turn, give you a more positive outlook on life.
Decorating my new apartment helped immensely. Hanging familiar pictures created a space that soon became home. I painted the walls in soothing colors and added throw rugs for depth. Soon, the apartment that had so frightened me started to feel like a comfortable old friend.
Many things helped me during my anxious season. Family, friends, exercise and familiarity all combined to make the unknown less frightening. I made a conscious decision to have a more positive outlook on life. It is amazing what the power of positive thinking can do!
Change can be scary. However, once you find a coping strategy it becomes easier to try new things.
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